For years, I approached learning with a traditional mindset—textbooks, worksheets, and structured lessons. While this method worked to some extent, I began to notice that something was missing. My children were bright, curious, and full of potential, yet some struggles didn’t seem to stem from a lack of ability. Instead, they stemmed from a mismatch between how they were being taught and how their true learning styles. For example, doing math in a rigid, upright sitting position was torture for my ten year old son, who thrives better in a more relaxed seated position.
Understanding Learning Styles
The concept of learning styles isn’t new, but it is often misunderstood or overlooked. Many assume that all children should be taught the same way. (After all isn’t this the structure in the school system in this country?) However, research and experience suggest otherwise. Learning styles refer to the different ways individuals process and retain information. Recognizing and embracing these styles can lead to a more effective and enjoyable educational experience.
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The Four Main Learning Styles
- Concrete Sequential (CS) – Learners who thrive on structure, order, and step-by-step instructions. They prefer predictable routines and tangible learning materials.
- Abstract Sequential (AS) – Logical thinkers who enjoy analyzing concepts and working independently. They absorb information best when it is presented in a well-organized, detailed manner.
- Abstract Random (AR) – These learners are intuitive, relationship-focused, and thrive in creative environments. They learn best through discussion, stories, and hands-on exploration.
- Concrete Random (CR) – Independent problem-solvers who love experimenting and thinking outside the box. They may struggle with rigid structures but excel in hands-on, real-world learning.
To learn more about these four learning styles, read the book The Way They Learn by Cynthia Ulrich Tobais. This book was a game changer and ultimately what catapulted me into so much more reading that has transformed our home education journey.
Why It Matters
Recognizing learning styles isn’t about putting kids into rigid categories or boxes. We cannot say “Johnny is strictly Concrete Random (CR) and that is that. In reality, there are many layers to our learning styles which the book further discusses. When we cater to these preferences, we create a learning environment that fosters confidence and success. It also helps minimize frustration—for both children and parents!
For example, a child who is an Abstract Random learner may struggle with a heavily structured curriculum but thrive when learning through storytelling or discussions. A Concrete Sequential learner may do best with a clear, step-by-step math curriculum rather than open-ended exploration.
Becoming a student of your child allows you to really see them for who they are. I have found by doing this, I am appreciating my children in ways I never have before. I find I am less annoyed by their discussions and seeing the deeper meanings behind what they are trying to tell me. In this way, deeper connections are being made between us and this has been so amazing to see.
Implementing Learning Styles at Home
So, how can we use this knowledge in a practical way? Here are some ways I’ve applied learning styles in our homeschool:
- Math Adjustments: Some children need hands-on manipulatives, while others thrive on patterns and mental problem-solving. A flexible math curriculum that offers different learning approaches can be a game-changer. (This was ultimately what led me to do so much research in the first place.) A great reminder is this: If math is ending in tears most days, it may not be you or the child, it may be the curriculum!
- Language Arts Customization: A child who dislikes spelling worksheets may actually enjoy learning word origins and roots, making spelling more meaningful and engaging. My oldest son seems to connect more with the logic and origins behind the words, rather than the rules that words must follow.
- Creating the Right Environment: Some learners need a quiet, well-lit space, while others do better in a cozy setting with soft lighting. Even small environmental changes can improve focus and engagement. As I said before, I was going against my oldest son’s learning style by expecting him to sit upright at the kitchen table. He is much more relaxed on the couch, with a pillow to prop up against and his book laid out on his lap. It doesn’t hurt to try different approaches! “The Way They Learn” has more examples.
- Using Music and Podcasts: Educational songs and engaging audio stories can reinforce concepts for auditory learners, making learning more interactive and fun. I have been able to utilize these methods much more lately. We have even found a few that my boys request!
The Journey to Lasting Success
Shifting from a one-size-fits-all approach to an individualized learning experience has been a transformative journey. It has required observation, patience, and a willingness to adjust when something isn’t working. The result? A more peaceful and productive learning environment where my children feel empowered in their education.
If you’re struggling with learning challenges in your homeschool or classroom, I encourage you to explore learning styles. Take the time to observe how your child engages with different types of material and adjust accordingly. Become a student of your child. Small changes can lead to big successes!
What learning styles have you discovered in your own children? Share your experiences in the comments—I’d love to hear how this approach is making a difference in your home!
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